Are you ‘wasting’ the person you are, doubting yourself or consumed by insecurities?
Jen Sincero’s You Are a Badass (2013) is a must read. You can stop living a dead life. You can turn the ship around. You can be a badass.
There is a catch, though: You need to make shift from wanting to change your life to deciding to change your life, and for you to live a life you have never lived, you have to do things you have never done.
“I don’t care how big a loser you may or may not perceive yourself to be right now,” she says, adding that we live in a world of limitless possibilities, and one must believe that anything is possible.
“All of us are connected to this limitless power and most of us aren’t using but a fraction of it.”
Therefore, if you’re less than impressed with your current situation despite doing whatever it is you’ve been doing, you clearly need to change things up.
This is how Sincero puts it: “All the stuff we’re so worried about creating and fixated on becoming is already right here, right now. The money you want already exists; the person you want to meet is already alive; the experience you want to have is available, now; the idea for that brilliant song you want to write is here, now, waiting for you to download the information.”
“The knowledge and insight and joy and connection and love are all wagging their hands in your face, trying to get your attention. The life you want is right here, right now.”
Dissaproval
She warns, however, that the first thing that will hit you in attempts to make that massive positive changes in your life is the disapproval, criticism, bafflement and the likes from friends, family and all the people closest to you.
You will get a flood of remarks about how you’re not the way you used to be, blah-blah.
“Shirley, are you really going to quit your secure, corporate job to open a nail salon when you’ve got two children, a mortgage, and high blood pressure? So few new businesses succeed, especially in this economy— aren’t you worried about what will happen to your family if you fail?” Sincero writes in her book.
Even though they’re often doing it out of love and concern, having others smear their fear and worry all over you is the last thing you need when you’re strengthening your superhero muscles to step out and take some risks.
So “I highly recommend keeping your mouth shut around people who are gonna bring you down. Instead, seek out those who are already totally kicking butt.”
You are the only you there is and ever will be. There will never be anyone exactly like you.
“You were given special gifts and talents to share with the world, and even though everybody has special gifts and talents, nobody will use theirs quite the same way you do. You are kind of a big deal.”
Comparison and validation
Comparison is the fastest way to take all the fun out of life. It’s none of your business what other people are doing. All that matters is that you’re enjoying yourself and pleased with what you’re creating.
Besides, do not waste your precious time giving one single crap about what anybody else thinks of you. It doesn’t mean you should miss out on the opportunity to benefit from outside input altogether, Sincero says.
“But if you find yourself always seeking outside approval, or base your self-worth on what everyone else thinks of you, you’re screwed.”
Here is another thing, you need your BODY the most. Say nice things about it, dress it up, and take it out. Give it hot sex, luxurious baths, and massages. Move it, stretch it, nourish it, hydrate it, pay attention to it — “The better our bodies feel, the happier and more productive we are.”
Most answers reveal themselves through doing, not thinking, and done is better than perfect — Get off your ass and get started. NOW!
Remember! The only failure is quitting. Everything else is just gathering information.
Jen Sincero is American writer, speaker and life coach.
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